Parenting the Strong-Willed Child
The so-called “strong-willed child”—oppositional, argumentative, assertively demanding—presents a unique challenge to his or her parents.
The adjective is synonymous, after all, with “hard to discipline.” In this enlightening and entertaining presentation, John outlines a virtually fail-
safe formula for successful discipline of not only the child who is strong-willed, but any child.
The strong-willed child’s parents ask, “How can we get our child to stop arguing with us?” John answers that question, giving a prescription he
absolutely, positively guarantees will stop arguments forever.
The strong-willed child’s parents ask, “How does one discipline a child who does not want to do what he is told?” John answers that question
too, explaining that the secret to effective discipline is found in mastering each of discipline’s “Three C’s”—communication, consequences, and
consistency—and John never fails to impart that mastery to his audience.
The strong-willed child’s parents ask, “How can we put an end to discipline problems that have been hounding us for years?” Believe it or not,
John answers that question too, and the prescription is practical, not pie-in-the-sky.
The Well-Behaved Child: Discipline that Works! (Part I & Part II)
This is a two-session “skillshop” (John’s term for a seminar that imparts skills rather than theory) that focuses on helping parents develop
excellence in discipline. Participants learn both the theory and “how-to” behind a number of John’s powerful disciplinary strategies. His
practical and creative methods can be readily applied to a broad range of disciplinary situations typically encountered by parents of children
ages three through early adolescence. (For older children, see Teen Proofing: Understanding and Managing Your Teenager. For toddlers, see
the 3-hour version of Making The “Terrible” Twos Terrific!)
The keys to effective discipline are clear, authoritative communication, strategic planning, and the use of techniques that assign emotional and
practical responsibility for a child’s misbehavior to its rightful owner—the child. Included are unique tools for managing sibling rivalry, bedtime
problems, disobedience, and public misbehavior. In addition, parents learn how they can work with their child’s teacher(s) to improve both
classroom behavior and academic performance. Graduates of this workshop routinely report that discipline becomes less of an issue in their
homes, communication with their children improves, and the overall quality of life in their families is greatly enhanced.
Parenting the Strong-Willed Teenager (Part I & II)
Again, a two-session “skill-shop” (John’s term for a seminar that imparts skills rather than theory.) Today’s parents approach the teen years
with great anxiety and trepidation. These are the peer pressure years, the years during which the child begins to declare his or her
independence and move toward emancipation. The problems that develop in the parent-teen relationship, says John, are usually due to
parents who don’t want to give the teen enough freedom and a teen who wants more freedom than he or she can handle. Is there a middle
ground? Yes, there is, and John describes it in terms of a macro-management style that focuses on the “Six C’s of Teen-Proofing”: curfew, cash,
car, conflict, consequences, and colleagues (a.k.a. co-conspirators). The parenting style that John provides all but insures that teens will take
responsible control of their own destinies during the most significant years of their childhoods and approach emancipation with confidence and
purpose.
Bringing Out the Best in Your Child
Working with Parents of Problem Students
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